This is something that has been disturbing me for quite a while, that today I ve decided to write it here.
I am not quite getting into critisizing the education system in India. Not yet atleast i should say. But my attitude towards it, as it has always been, is that if a student wants something for real, s/he should really work for it. No matter how crappie the situation is. I went through all that, and I found it a real test of survival. Here by saying survival, I mean survival of my innate passion in life. Blaming the education system is exactly the example of the quote "A lazy carpenter blames his tools".
Now getting to my point! There have been some broad minded parents, some rebellious kids who have contributed to some change. Where students have chosen a track which is totally different from the traditional system. It is good, but not many realize the intensity or seriousness of the change. Every field today has experts. For example if u just have an overpriced camera, you are not a photographer who can make a good living by taking pics. Life is not that easy. But at the same time, a talented person can make money with pics taken even on a mobile phone. There a lot of things that should be taken into consideration while choosing the way an individual would want to live.
And, it is not possible for a person to explore their skills if they dont try out any. Some might be amazing in the human breed by being successful engineers as well doing leisure activities that pay back.And some who are supposedly intelligent are still parasites on parents.
There are different ways of living, and a scope for survival if you really work well (i am not getting into another discussion about smart work and hard work. Not now, not here)
Given that I consider that an individual has a responsibility as much as the right to choose the way they live, I feel parents today are crazy.
Its a "bash the parents post" today here. This is what I have been seeing very often "My kid is not at all serious about studies. S/he gets only 97%. the rest of the time, s/he is playing or drawing, or doing something else".
Damn it i say! As long as the kid is not wasting time in front of the TV(watching absolutely demented new generation cartoons or things that kids should not be seeing at their age) or the computer (the new generation idiot box) virtually socializing with helplessly jobless people all over the world, why do you actually bother? The irony here is, parents don't mind kids socializing online, but mind if they actually went out playing cricket/ football, or were drawing something or just anything more than studies.
I don't mean that they shouldn't screw the arse of the child if s/he gets bad grades. I do believe studies are important, really important. But there is life beyond books. It is because of this stupidity that leads to further cases where students aim at getting a 100, and the kid who gets 99 doesn't have a college seat. And then, you will have a set of people blaming these innocent students for "brain drain", and lack of responsibility to mother India and what not bullshit.
Kids can even die with this pressure. Stop pressurizing them to get a 100. Let them get a good score(much better than decent), and live life beyond study materials. Let them read novels, newspapers, go to play some sport (yeah and now that curbs childhood obesity too), and develop some talent, and continue to have one real passion in life, and follow their dream.
New generation parents- please realize you have given birth to humans, and you have to raise them to be a fine lady or a gentleman. Not develop a machine or gadget. Don't make them await the day you are going to die and have it written on your grave stone "and now we live in peace"
I definitely want to end the post talking about my parents. I had a dad who was ready to break the TV if I didnt study, and actually liked me singing, drawing, and ofcourse sounds silly, but fighting and winning over dimwit boys. He was an amazing friend to me who liked me to develop myself all round, although never liked me being round in shape. (my mom feels that the only person who can make me stay slim would have been my dad, because she has given up on me. Having grown up, i now realize the seriousness of it. So not much of a loss) And a mother who never compelled me to go through a system of coaching for exams where i would have to sleep only one or two hours a day since the age of 8. She is a bold woman indeed who let me do whatever I like, she didn't scold me or stop me when I said that I would not do MBBS, and neither when I said that I would shift to french. ( I made this change at the age of 20! ) She was a strong support throughout my study in french, and continues to be a support and wants me to pursue it till PhD. I really will do it in a steady pace.
Let your kids discover their own ways of survival, don't suck the life out of them just because it is you who has given them birth
Currently reading : Chanakya's Chant
Currently listening to: Aicha by Khaled (the french version, and it is not bad)
I am not quite getting into critisizing the education system in India. Not yet atleast i should say. But my attitude towards it, as it has always been, is that if a student wants something for real, s/he should really work for it. No matter how crappie the situation is. I went through all that, and I found it a real test of survival. Here by saying survival, I mean survival of my innate passion in life. Blaming the education system is exactly the example of the quote "A lazy carpenter blames his tools".
Now getting to my point! There have been some broad minded parents, some rebellious kids who have contributed to some change. Where students have chosen a track which is totally different from the traditional system. It is good, but not many realize the intensity or seriousness of the change. Every field today has experts. For example if u just have an overpriced camera, you are not a photographer who can make a good living by taking pics. Life is not that easy. But at the same time, a talented person can make money with pics taken even on a mobile phone. There a lot of things that should be taken into consideration while choosing the way an individual would want to live.
And, it is not possible for a person to explore their skills if they dont try out any. Some might be amazing in the human breed by being successful engineers as well doing leisure activities that pay back.And some who are supposedly intelligent are still parasites on parents.
There are different ways of living, and a scope for survival if you really work well (i am not getting into another discussion about smart work and hard work. Not now, not here)
Given that I consider that an individual has a responsibility as much as the right to choose the way they live, I feel parents today are crazy.
Its a "bash the parents post" today here. This is what I have been seeing very often "My kid is not at all serious about studies. S/he gets only 97%. the rest of the time, s/he is playing or drawing, or doing something else".
Damn it i say! As long as the kid is not wasting time in front of the TV(watching absolutely demented new generation cartoons or things that kids should not be seeing at their age) or the computer (the new generation idiot box) virtually socializing with helplessly jobless people all over the world, why do you actually bother? The irony here is, parents don't mind kids socializing online, but mind if they actually went out playing cricket/ football, or were drawing something or just anything more than studies.
I don't mean that they shouldn't screw the arse of the child if s/he gets bad grades. I do believe studies are important, really important. But there is life beyond books. It is because of this stupidity that leads to further cases where students aim at getting a 100, and the kid who gets 99 doesn't have a college seat. And then, you will have a set of people blaming these innocent students for "brain drain", and lack of responsibility to mother India and what not bullshit.
Kids can even die with this pressure. Stop pressurizing them to get a 100. Let them get a good score(much better than decent), and live life beyond study materials. Let them read novels, newspapers, go to play some sport (yeah and now that curbs childhood obesity too), and develop some talent, and continue to have one real passion in life, and follow their dream.
New generation parents- please realize you have given birth to humans, and you have to raise them to be a fine lady or a gentleman. Not develop a machine or gadget. Don't make them await the day you are going to die and have it written on your grave stone "and now we live in peace"
I definitely want to end the post talking about my parents. I had a dad who was ready to break the TV if I didnt study, and actually liked me singing, drawing, and ofcourse sounds silly, but fighting and winning over dimwit boys. He was an amazing friend to me who liked me to develop myself all round, although never liked me being round in shape. (my mom feels that the only person who can make me stay slim would have been my dad, because she has given up on me. Having grown up, i now realize the seriousness of it. So not much of a loss) And a mother who never compelled me to go through a system of coaching for exams where i would have to sleep only one or two hours a day since the age of 8. She is a bold woman indeed who let me do whatever I like, she didn't scold me or stop me when I said that I would not do MBBS, and neither when I said that I would shift to french. ( I made this change at the age of 20! ) She was a strong support throughout my study in french, and continues to be a support and wants me to pursue it till PhD. I really will do it in a steady pace.
Let your kids discover their own ways of survival, don't suck the life out of them just because it is you who has given them birth
Currently reading : Chanakya's Chant
Currently listening to: Aicha by Khaled (the french version, and it is not bad)
