Well, by now my readers know it well that i ve got out of my cocoon and flying out to see the world. in due course i happen to learn things by personal experience, by others' experience, by lectures, and most by reading. Reading happens to be the most appealing form of exploring new things as much as personal experiences. Here is a mail that my friend forwarded to me. Awesome to read and thought it has to be here for all the women to read it.




I don't know who wrote this, but is definitly worth reading.. It must be Shobha De, or may be some other women activist... ha ha..

If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away.If he doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay.Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior. Allow your intuitionor spirit) to save you from heartache. Stop trying to change yourselvesfor a relationship that's not meant to be. Slower is better. Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy. If a relationshipends because the man was not treating you as you deserve then heck no,you can't "be friends." A friend wouldn't mistreat a friend.Don't settle. If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is. Don't stay because you think "it will get better." You'll be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things are not better. The only person you can control in a relationship is you. Avoid menwho've got a bunch of children by a bunch of different women. He didn't marry them whenhe got them pregnant, Why would he treat you any differently? Always have your own set of friends separate from his. Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you. If something bothers you, speak up. Never let a man know everything. He will use it against you later. You cannot change a man's behavior. Change comes from within.Don't EVER make him feel he is more important than you are... even if he has more education or in a better job. Do not make him into a quasi-god. He is a man, nothing more nothing less. Never let a man define who you are. Never borrow someone else's man. If he cheated with you, he'll cheat on you. A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you.All men are NOT dogs. You should not be the one doing all the bending...compromise is two waystreet. You need time to heal between relationships...there is nothing cuteabout baggage... deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationshipYou should never look for someone to COMPLETE you...a relationship consists of two WHOLE individuals...look for someone complimentary...not supplementary. Dating is fun...even if he doesn't turnout to be Mr. Right. Make him miss you sometimes...when a man always know where you are, and your always readily available to him- he takes it for granted. Never move into his mother's house. Never co-sign for a man. Don't fully commit toa man who doesn't give you everything that you need. Keep him in your radar but get to know others. Share this with other ladies..... You'll make someone smile, another rethink her choices, and another woman prepare. They say it takes a minute to find a special person, an hour to appreciate them, a day to love them and an entire lifetime to forget them.